Is it ever okay to permit cheating in a committed relationship?
In a relationship between two committed partners, there are certain no-go lines that mustn’t be crossed, commonly called deal breakers. Should a partner cross that line, it expectedly will bring to an end such relationship.
For some couples, the deal breaker could be lying, for others, it could be disrespecting your partner’s parents or siblings. Some reasons a partner may call off a relationship may appear ridiculous to you, but it is what It is — these things are basically subjective.
I would however like to discuss ‘cheating’ as one controversial deal breaker in relationships. It wouldn’t be of surprise to many who have been following trends in society that unfaithfulness in relationships is no deal breaker for some.
There is in fact the popular notion, particularly among the female gender, that the male gender naturally cheats in a relationship, because “it’s in their DNA”. So the women folks tend to live with that line of thought going into a relationship. Not quite sure where some of these female folks got that idea from — perhaps that would make for a good topic to be discussed another day.
On the flip side, hardly would you at any point in time have heard men say “it’s in the nature of women to cheat,” in an attempt to normalize or justify such actions. So this is why it took me rather by surprise, that a man, who happens to be a celebrity Nigerian singer by name Ric Hassani, would say that he is fine with his woman cheating on him as long as they share a deeper bond or connection — and that he would even offer to drive his woman to the other man’s house whom she wants to have an affair with.
According to Hassani, he goes on to further explain why he would allow his boo go sneak up with another man, going with the popular expression ‘you only have one life to live’. By taking such stand, of course it will not be far-fetched to say he would not expect his woman to object if he also wants to sway and check out another woman.
I don’t know about other fans of Ric Hassani but for me personally, this revelation comes as a surprise to me. I find it surprising because Hassani who primarily sings about love and romance comes across to me as the ‘one man, one woman’ kind of guy.
Reading up that piece of news about Hassani’s stand on allowing ‘cheating’ in a relationship makes me wonder if it’s ever alright to normalize permitting infidelity in a relationship, which is akin to the concept of open relationships.
Truth be told, majority, if not everyone, in a committed relationship, may have at one time or the other have had eyes for other people besides their partner, but out of the love and respect for their significant partners, do not act on that attraction.
I can’t help but wonder if allowing cheating in your relationship ever ends well. The way I see it, such partners may actually be setting themselves up for a broken relationship? Besides, can you truly say you love someone and opt for trying out ‘open’ kind of relationships? I suppose this is up for debate.
To each his own.